Comments for Sam Louie MFT

Comment on Sex Addiction, Emotional Affair, or Both? by Sandi

Sandi — Mon, 18 Mar 2019 13:15:14 +0000

I recently found our my husband had multiple affairs over 13 years ago. There were 8 partners all of which were one night stands, except for two. One he had phone conversations with for over a year but only had sex with her twice. The other one he did not have sex with, but for a period of 4 months he met her for lunch, met her for coffee(made out with at the coffee shop) and also had phone conversations with her. These two are much harder for me to deal with. He says they meant no more to him than the one night stands, but I question that. Since its been so long ago there are many details he claim she to have forgotten; such as what the dynamics of the conversations were. It’s eating me up inside thinking that he cared about these woman. I can’t stop wondering what he said, what they said, if he said sweet things to them, told them he missed them, told them they were beautiful…. All these questions just eat away at me. I suspect he does remember things but just doesn’t want to hurt me or cause himself anymore shame. Any advice would be very much appreciated .

Comment on The Incel Problem: Blaming and Externalizing the Problem by Travis

Travis — Fri, 30 Nov 2018 10:18:27 +0000

LMAO, the only thing that they’d suggest is would be to approach women like mad men. If you’re not being preselected by women, your options are pretty much solitude, 3rd world dating, or hookers.Its called natural selection for a reason and if you’re not being preselected by women, you’re pretty much fucked but you wouldn’t know that because apparently you “know” it all.

Comment on Sex Addiction Recovery: Spousal Support by Ed

Ed — Sun, 18 Nov 2018 21:45:21 +0000

Mr. Louie, I’m a sex addict in the early months of recovery. Your blog has really hit home with me. My wife has told me, in her anger, that it has become all about me. I realize that she is being left out of much of my journey – by my choice. I don’t yet have the courage to share all the secrets of my 30+ years of addiction and marriage. I do want our marriage to survive – I just don’t know how to pull her into my journey without causing great pain for her, and probably ending our marriage. Thank you for your blogs and insight. Please know you are valued.

Comment on The Incel Problem: Blaming and Externalizing the Problem by Sam

Sam — Sun, 13 May 2018 00:31:40 +0000

Undateable is a strong word. Incels are in a self-perpetuating cycle of self-hate and misogyny which makes it difficult for them to be “dateable”. My clients acknowledge being ensconced in the Incel movement or at least the online message boards before deciding to get help. Let’s be real, if people want help there are plenty of resources available but most incels don’t want to listen to alternative viewpoints, let alone help.

Comment on The Incel Problem: Blaming and Externalizing the Problem by Francesca

Francesca — Sat, 12 May 2018 02:25:40 +0000

It would be helpful to society if you could post an article on how to help the undateable men to find women for dating. The undateable men have few options for help. Many female therapists will be scared of accepting undateable men as clients. Male therapists often tend to downplay the suffering of undateable men and tell them to “man up.” Unfortunately, there are few support groups which cover straight men’s issues. It is unprofessional to compare your clients to the followers of the incel movement. It is also racist to stereotype men of color as being undated le or more susceptible to becoming followers of the incel movement. Stereotypes destroy lives. Mr. Louie, you are capable of better work. Mr. Louie, you once won an Emmy. Please do not rely on click bait titles, scaremongering, and race baiting in order to attract readers. If you can focus on giving advice to the undateable men on how to rebuild their lives, you may be able to get both another Emmy and positive recognition. Many therapists these days are desperate for attention and hope to become TV famous Dr. Phil wannabes. Mr. Louie, please do not sell out or follow the dark path towards pretentious power!